The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F Last Chapter Summary

Book notes on "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" by Marking Manson

These are my notes on The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Marker Manson.

The volume was recommended by a swain CTO who hated his job. It was a skilful read to start a breather.

Key Insights

• Truthful happiness occurs only when you find the bug you lot relish having and enjoy solving.
• Whatsoever makes usa feel good will also inevitably make u.s.a. feel bad.
• Mass-media-driven exceptionalism:
  • The inundation of the exceptional makes people feel worse almost themselves.
  • Existence "average" has become the new standard of failure.
  • Don't measure yourself as a raising star or genius, only as a more mundane entity.
• If you want to modify how you see your bug, yous have to change what you value and/or how yous measure failure/success.
• Responsibility for everything that occurs in your life, regardless of who'southward at fault.
  • Fault is by tense.
  • Responsibility is present tense.
• Certainty is the enemy of growth.
• Would being wrong create a better or a worse problem than my current problem, for both myself and others?
• Action isn't simply the issue of motivation, it is also the cause of it.

The fearfulness of death follows from the fear of life. A human who live fully is prepared to die at any time. Mark Twain

Chapter 1: Don't Try

• The desire for more positive feel is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience.

  The more you pursue feeling improve all the fourth dimension, the less satisfied you go. The Backwards Law by Alan Watts

• Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.
  • The avoidance of suffering is a grade of suffering.
  • The abstention of struggle is a struggle.
• The subtle art of non giving a fuck:
  • How to pick and choose what matters to yous and what does not thing to you based on finely honed personal values.
  • Subtlety #ane: Not being indifferent, but beingness comfy being different.
    • It ways non caring about adversity to accomplish your goals.
  • Subtlety #two: You lot must give a fuck nearly something more important than adversity.
  • Subtlety #3: Whether you realize it or not, you lot are always choosing what to give a fuck about:
    • Maturity == to become more selective about the fucks you lot are willing to requite.

Chapter 2: Happiness Is a Problem

• Suffering is biologically useful: information technology is nature'south preferred amanuensis for inspiring change.
• Happiness comes from solving problems.
  • Hope for a life full of practiced problems.
  • Issues never stop; they just become exchanged and/or upgraded.
• Truthful happiness occurs only when you notice the problems you lot enjoy having and relish solving.
• Deprival and Victim mentality are the 2 principal ways of avoiding solving problems.
• Emotions are another feedback machinery.
  • Don't obsess or over-identify with them.
• Everything comes with an inherent cede:
  • What creates our positive experiences will ascertain our negative experiences.
  • Whatever makes united states feel good will also inevitably make the states experience bad.
  • Our struggles make up one's mind our successes.

Chapter iii: Y'all Are Not Special

• Entitlement:
  • I'm awesome and the rest of you lot all suck, and then I deserve special treatment.
  • I suck and the rest of you are all awesome, so I deserve a special treatment.
• Mass-media-driven exceptionalism:
  • The inundation of the exceptional makes people feel worse virtually themselves.
• Being "average" has become the new standard of failure.

Affiliate 4: The Value of Suffering

• Self-awareness onion:
• What is objectively true about your state of affairs is not as important every bit how you lot come to run across the situation, how you chose to measure it and value it.
• We're apes.
• If you desire to modify how y'all see your problems, yous have to change what you value and/or how you measure out failure/success.
• Shitty values:
  • Pleasure: the most superficial form of satisfaction, the easiest to obtain and lose.
    • It is what is marketed to us 24/seven.
  • Material success.
  • Always existence correct.
  • Staying positive.
• Adept values are:
  • Reality-based.
  • Socially constructive.
  • Immediate and controllable.
• Author's five values (1 per next chapter):
  • Responsibility for everything that occurs in your life, regardless of who'due south at error.
  • Doubt.
  • Failure.
  • Rejection: both say no and hear no.
  • Contemplation of 1'due south own mortality.

Chapter five: You are always choosing

With cracking responsibleness comes bang-up ability.

• Responsible for a problem != be at mistake.
  • Fault is past tense.
  • Responsibility is present tense.
• Alter on values volition bring:
  • Doubtfulness.
  • Feel like a failure: For some time yous will measure yourself with the old values.
  • Rejections: many of you relationships are congenital around the old values.

Chapter six: You're Wrong Nigh Everything (Simply So I Am)

• Growth is an endless iterative procedure.
• Certainty is the enemy of growth.
• Nothing is certain until it has already happened and fifty-fifty then it is still debatable.

• In one case we create significant for ourselves, our brains are designed to concur on to that meaning.

  The more something threatens your identity, the more y'all will avoid information technology. Manson's Law of Avoidance

• Don't exist special; don't be unique. Don't mensurate yourself equally a raising star or genius, but as a more mundane entity.

• Question yourself:
  • What if I am wrong?
  • What would it hateful if I were wrong?
  • Would being wrong create a better or a worse problem than my electric current problem, for both myself and others?

Affiliate vii: Failure Is the Fashion Frontwards

• If someone is meliorate than you at something, then it's likely because she has failed at it more than than you take.
• "Exercise something" principle:
  • Action isn't just the upshot of motivation, it is too the cause of it.

Affiliate 8: The importance of Proverb No

• We are defined past what we choose to reject.
• Paradox of selection:
  • The more options nosotros've given, the less satisfied we become with any nosotros cull, because nosotros're aware of all the other options we're potentially forfeiting.

Chapter 9: … And And then Yous Die

• Without expiry, everything would feel inconsequential.

Our "immortality projects" do not allow u.s.a. to freely cull our values, hence our path to happiness. Ernest Becker, The Denial of Death

• Immortality projects: those to preserve our identities after we are dead.

The fright of death follows from the fear of life. A man who live fully is prepared to die at any time. Mark Twain

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